We looked into this ourselves & were considering it fairly last year. We found that the social worker doing the home study, even though it was through a "religious" organization was really put off by us being forthright with our Christianity. It's fine to be a Christian as long as it doesn't affect the rest of your life, especially child rearing. There's a lot of psychologizing and they really buy into it in a major way.
We found that our interest in seeking help through the church first was a negative thing in their eyes as they wanted to hear that we would run to a psychologist for treatment and have a child on psychotropic drugs long-term. They were so concerned about our gospel focus that they wanted to have us go through a psychological eval. After all, no one who would go to the church instead of turning to a psychologist (the priests of the humanist religion) could possibly be fit to parent. The interesting thing was that they were amazed at how well behaved Ruth was and how much she loved her mom & dad, which should have been a clue to them.
If they catch wind that you don't buy into their religion (psychology) they will not give a favorable home study. Even with regular adoption though they really probe on the spanking issue & if they find out you spank they say you're an abuser and won't write a favorable study until you go through brainwashing to learn more appropriate (self-esteem building) parenting methods. We were actually told that there is absolutely no instance in which it is ever appropriate to spank a child as it was tantamount to abuse. So, the best thing I can say from our experience is be as shrewd as serpents and innocent as doves.
I'll post more of his thoughts later. They're intriguing...
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