I found an adoption message board tonight, and ran across this interesting post...
Well we started over 16 months ago and were basically told the same as you. Problem is they dont tell you to be proactive, your worker, if she is like most , will tell you "Now the long part begins, the waiting for us to match a child with you, be patient and we will contact you soon.." What a load of hog wash.
I found out early that if you dont call at least once a week your waiting time gets longer and longer. We are at the point of visitation with our DD.
Once we started visitations I apologized to our worker for all the phone calls, she then told me that the families that are truely interested in adopting are the ones that keep hounding them, the ones that dont call and set and wait are usually the ones that get chosen two or three years down the road.
Take my advice and those of others from this room, search for childern on the net, call at least once aweek and ask if they have any info, demand to get to go to the adoption parties or what ever they call them in your state.
If you find a child at one of these, find thier worker and spend alot of time getting to know them, email them and ask if they have chosen a family for the child yet.Do as much of the leg work as you can, contact everyone you can, make it so when they hear your name the workers cringe because they havent found you a child yet , .
I know it sounds bad, but if you do all of this you will find a child one that you will match thier needs. and the workers will do thier best to get everything moveing, just to keep you off thier back...
Oh. One more thing. Feel free to tell your friends and family about this blog. One thing a friend of us told us is "tell as many people as you can that you want to adopt. You never know who you talk to knows of a person who knows of a child that's waiting." Great advice!
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